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This image provided by HBO Max shows Jennifer Aniston, from left, Courteney Cox, Matthew Perry, Lisa Kudrow, David Schwimmer and Matt LeBlanc in a scene from the "Friends" reunion special. (Photo: Terence Patrick, AP)<\/span><\/p>\n There was perhaps no more defining show in the ’90s and early millennium than “Friends,”\u00a0especially when it comes to relationships and dating. I mean, there are actual catchphrases and dating terms that were coined on “Friends” that are now part of our everyday vernacular. The term \u201cfriend zone\u201d? Yep, it originated on “Friends,” when Joey declared Ross the mayor of the zone.<\/p>\n As a Gen-X\u2019er, I was so influenced by “Friends,” when I recently wrote a book about dating, I even re-named a few of my more memorable love interests after characters on Friends (to protect the not-so-innocent). So with the long-awaited and much-buzzed-about cast reunion dropping this week on HBO Max, I got to thinking: when it comes to dating, which Friend would I be? If you\u2019re wondering if you\u2019re a Monica, Chandler, Rachel, Ross, Phoebe\u00a0or Joey\u2026read on!<\/p>\n Her infamous catchphrase:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m breezy!\u201d<\/p>\n Obsessive, competitive, and Type-A to the point of exhaustion, Monica never met a bottle of Windex she didn\u2019t love. While she sometimes tried to moonlight as laid back and relaxed in order to keep a man around, she would always inevitably end up \u201cpulling a Monica\u201d and letting her true control freak flag fly high. (Which led to the hilarious \u201cI\u2019m breezy\u201d message on Richard\u2019s answering machine and the ensuing feedback from the Friends: \u201cYou can\u2019t SAY you\u2019re breezy\u2026it negates the breezy!\u201d) A Monica is someone who wants to find love so badly, they usually end up pushing it away. But if and when you DO find your perfect match, aka your Chandler, it\u2019s a love for the ages.<\/p>\n Cast members of "Friends" on September 22, 2002, in Los Angeles. (Photo: Lee Celano\/AFP)<\/span><\/p>\n CONS OF BEING A MONICA:<\/strong> There is no middle-ground with you when it comes to love. Everything you feel, you feel it in such a HUGE way, it can sometimes come off as too controlling or needy.<\/p>\n PROS OF BEING A MONICA: <\/strong>You are passionate, driven\u00a0and loyal to a fault. Everything you do, you do in such a huge way, the people who are lucky enough to be a part of your life will never doubt for a second how much you love them. (And in the era of COVID, your cleanliness and OCD ways also make you the Friend who all the other Friends come to for the Lysol wipes and hand sanitizer hook-up.)<\/p>\n His infamous catchphrase:<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m hopeless and awkward and desperate for love!\u201d<\/p>\n Hilarious, insecure, and yes\u2026awkward\u2026 Chandler uses his sense of humor both as protection and deflection. While he outwardly declares himself to be terrified of commitment,\u00a0deep down, Chandler just wants to be loved. A Chandler is someone who doesn\u2019t share his heart with just anyone, so when he finally does find someone he wants to settle down with, it\u2019s for keeps. And though he might revert back to his commitment-phobe ways from time to time (Hello! He pulled a disappearing act on his and Monica\u2019s wedding day), he never tries to outrun true love.<\/p>\n CONS OF BEING A CHANDLER:<\/strong> You doubt yourself when it comes to love and relationships, which in turn causes you to doubt the other person, which in turn, causes you to run.<\/p>\n PROS OF BEING A CHANDLER:<\/strong> Underneath all the fear and self-doubt and hesitation thumps the heart of a true romantic. You rarely jump off the high dive into the pool of commitment, but when you do, there\u2019s no turning back.<\/p>\n Infamous Catchphrase:<\/strong> \u201cI am over you. And that, my friend, is what they call closure.\u201d<\/p>\n Beautiful, self-assured, and fashion-savvy, Rachel is the woman that men want to date and women want to be. Everyone loves Rachel. In fact, everyone in high school loved her so much (except for the \u201cI Hate Rachel Green Club,\u201d,of course), she was a triple threat: prom queen, homecoming queen, and class president. The problem with being Rachel Green? You can get so caught up in being Rachel Green that you forget to ask yourself what it is you really want out of life and love rather than just settling for what\u2019s expected of you.<\/p>\n A Rachel is always battling between her head and her heart: Does she want the rich dentist that everyone expects her to marry, or the nerdy paleontologist that she feels a soul connection with? The good news is: A\u00a0Rachel always ends up following her heart in the end\u2026 even when it takes her out a bathroom window at her own wedding.<\/p>\n This image provided by HBO Max shows Matt LeBlanc, from left, Matthew Perry, Jennifer Aniston, Courteney Cox and Lisa Kudrow in a scene from the "Friends" reunion special. (Photo: Terence Patrick, AP)<\/span><\/p>\n CONS OF BEING A RACHEL:<\/strong> The danger of a Rachel peaking in high school is real. You can get so caught up in who you used to be that you don\u2019t allow yourself to become who you are. (To the point of donning your high school cheerleading outfit at age 30 to get a man\u2019s attention.)<\/p>\n PROS OF BEING A RACHEL:<\/strong> When it comes down to it, you never allow yourself to settle for status quo. Underneath the sometimes superficial exterior lives a brave boss babe who just wants to break free from expectations and live the life of your dreams with the man of your dreams. Though you often stumble into less-than-perfect relationships, you\u2019re not afraid to always get back up and try again. (And again and again and again, when it comes to Ross.)<\/p>\n Infamous catchphrase:<\/strong> \u201cWE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!!\u201d<\/p>\n Brainy, co-dependent, and completely impetuous when it comes to love, Ross is always acting first and thinking later. He rushed into marriage at a young age with the completely wrong person, got his first divorce a few years later, and learned absolutely nothing from the experience. Ross lives by the motto: \u201cYou\u2019re nobody ’til somebody loves you,\u201d and literally has zero concept of how to be alone. So much so that the very night he breaks up with his great love, Rachel, he rushes to hook up with the Xerox girl a few hours later, thereby leading to the one of the biggest debates in television history: Were Ross and Rachel REALLY on a break?!<\/p>\n A Ross is only content when in a relationship, meaning he often settles for whoever happens to be standing right in front of him just to avoid being single … and he\u2019s probably racked up more than one divorce along the way. But despite his flawed approach to relationships, you can\u2019t help but admire a Ross for his ability to keep chasing love, no matter how hard it runs from him.<\/p>\n This image provided by HBO Max shows David Schwimmer, left, and Matthew Perry in a scene from the "Friends" reunion special. (Photo: Terence Patrick, AP)<\/span><\/p>\n CONS OF BEING A ROSS:<\/strong> A Ross is so determined to be coupled up, he\u2019ll stop at nothing to attract women, including bleaching his teeth a hair-raising shade of white, spray tanning himself to an unrecognizable state, and forcing on ill-fitting leather pants that later have to be peeled off in the bathroom of his unsuspecting date. And when his plans don\u2019t work out (or when someone eats his sandwich) he loses his cool faster than he lost Emily at the altar. Oh, and on that note: A Ross has been known to say the wrong name at his own wedding.<\/p>\n Better than scripted: <\/strong>The ‘Friends’ reunion is everything fans hoped it would be<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n PROS OF BEING A ROSS:<\/strong> A Ross is nothing if not a hopeless romantic. Key word: Hopeless. HA! Underneath his know-it-all attitude and often needy exterior is a guy who just simply loves LOVE. And who will go to the ends of the earth to find it. (Just not to Poughkeepsie.)<\/p>\n Her infamous catchphrase:<\/strong> \u201cHe\u2019s her lobster!\u201d<\/p>\n Whimsical, zany, and childlike, Phoebe is the most inexperienced Friend when it comes to love. From her offbeat childhood to her colorful career path, Phoebe is never quite SETTLED\u2026 and that vibe carries over into her love life. A Phoebe is someone who has found herself in one almost, not quite-relationship after another, circling around love but never quite landing on it. And if learning to be in a relationship is like learning to ride a bike, a Phoebe is in trouble, because she never learned how to ride a bike. All that said, a Phoebe isn\u2019t weighed down by baggage from past failed relationships, so she is able to bring a lightness and a joy to her love life that is truly unique. And when she does finally \u201cfind her lobster,\u201d much like real lobsters, she mates for life.<\/p>\n "Friends" cast in Jan. 1998. (Photo: Jon Ragel\/NBC)<\/span><\/p>\n CONS OF BEING A PHOEBE:<\/strong> While a Phoebe excels at life experience, she is lacking in relationship experience, meaning she often attracts men that are just as flaky as she is.<\/p>\n PROS OF BEING A PHOEBE:<\/strong> A Phoebe is kind, loving, and selfless to a fault. (Just ask the bee that she let sting her to make him look tough in front of all of his bee friends.) A Phoebe is also exactly who she is, with no apologies \u2013 and she allows you to be exactly who you are, with no apologies. Even if who you are is Crap Bag. First name Crap, last name Bag.<\/p>\n His infamous catchphrase:<\/strong> \u201cHow you doin\u2019?\u201d<\/p>\n Flirtatious, promiscuous\u00a0and uncomplicated, Joey just plain loves women. And sandwiches. But mostly women. A struggling actor, Joey is more committed to his chosen career path than he ever is any relationship. A Joey is too busy spreading the love to focus on settling down with just one woman \u2013 and he can sometimes come across as cocky and even a bit smarmy. But when you get past all the layers of Chandler\u2019s clothing he put on to get back at Chandler for stealing his chair, you find a great big old soft-hearted teddy bear.<\/p>\n A Joey is caring and loyal and fiercely protective of his friends \u2026 to the point of proposing marriage when he finds out one of his best friends is pregnant, and accidentally proposing marriage (yet again) when she actually has the baby. A Joey rarely falls in love, but when he does, he falls HARD, and usually with the wrong woman. But at the end of the day, Joey is most comfortable when he\u2019s a bachelor, and is \u201cunlikely to take a wife.\u201d<\/p>\n This image provided by HBO Max shows David Schwimmer, from left, Courteney Cox, Matt LeBlanc and Jennifer Aniston in a scene from the "Friends" reunion special. (Photo: Terence Patrick, AP)<\/span><\/p>\n CONS OF BEING A JOEY:<\/strong> A Joey is such an eternal playboy, when he finally does develop real feelings, its hard for people to take him seriously. Even the Friends closest to him. But he doesn\u2019t develop real feelings very often, so this is really a moo point.<\/p>\n PROS OF BEING A JOEY: <\/strong>A Joey could steal your heart (or our dessert) and ghost you the next day and you\u2019d still smile from ear-to-ear the next time you see him because he\u2019s just so darn lovable. A Joey also never pretends to be anything he isn\u2019t, and he never promises you a rose garden. He\u2019s here for a good time, not for a long time. And there\u2019s something really refreshing about his honest approach to love and relationships.<\/p>\n So which Friend are you when it comes to dating? A combination of two? Or maybe you pivot among a few? While I almost never recommend going back to an ex, I can honestly say, “Friends”\u00a0is one relationship I\u2019m thrilled to revisit. Come Thursday night, I\u2019ll be sitting in front of my TV screen singing \u201cReunited, and it feels so good!\u201d How about you?<\/p>\nMonica, the Lovable Neurotic<\/h2>\n
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Rachel, the Confident Girl Next Door<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nRoss, the Serial Monogamist (see also: Mr. Divorce Guy)<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nPhoebe, the Flaky Flower Child (AKA Princess Consuela Banana-Hammock)<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nJoey, the Player & Likely Lifelong Bachelor with the Heart of Gold<\/h2>\n
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